In Search of Lily

being a better me... one day at a time.



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    The next time you see someone call a little girl bossy, just walk up to them and smile and say, “That little girl’s not bossy, that little girl has executive leadership skills.

    Sheryl Sandberg

    My feeling fit story… saga, journey, battle, experience. It’s an on-going struggle.

    I could start this off with a bunch of blah, blah, blah excuses about how I’ve always wanted to lose the baby weight, look skinny, fit into my jeans, not have a muffin-top, yada, yada, yada… but I’ll just put myself out there with zero shame.

    Hi my name is Lily… and I am fat skinny.


    Now don’t give me the BS… Lily you’re not fat. You look fine. What are you talking about? You just had a baby. It’s totally normal.

    I know it’s normal, but nonetheless I have not felt healthy or fit in a very, very, very long time. I’ll tell you the down and dirty of it. I’m not athletic. I don’t particularly like the gym. I can be pretty lazy…. and to top it all off - I’m a horrible eater. My entire life I’ve struggled with binge eating or not eating at all. My mom used to tell me that my eyes were always bigger than my stomach, and I’ve got plenty of close friends who can attest to that. So why does this all matter now? Why should I care?

    Well things have changed. I don’t feel comfortable in my skin anymore. I feel unhealthy. I feel out of shape. I feel tired…. and I just don’t want to feel like that anymore. I’m 148lbs with 37% body fat and 25% muscle. I am not physically fit.

    Sixteen months ago at my heaviest, I was 180lbs. I had just given birth to our son, and the “extra weight” didn’t seem to go along with it. Fast forward to a few months later and I barely managed to lose 20lbs. Nobody ever tells you the honest truth about how hard it can be to lose the baby weight. I am STILL struggling to get back to my pre-pregnancy size.

    My husband says “just go to the gym”. My sister says “you just have to eat better”. Well yes both are true, but I say I actually have to LIVE healthier. I know plenty of people who hit the gym everyday and eat more salad than a bunny rabbit, but it hasn’t made them any closer to living a healthier life.

    I want to eliminate all the toxicity in my life. I want to live long enough to watch my son grow into a man. I want to be healthy enough to not have to fight for my life in a hospital bed.

    I’ve told you about Arbonne. I’ve promised you that I would share my story and that is what I’m doing today. Someone has to hold me accountable. I really hope it will be you. I’ve changed my entire lifestyle, cut out all the crap, and started a 30-day detox with Arbonne’s Feeling Fit Kit. I’m honestly feeling good. Really good!

    I won’t lie. It’s been a challenge, but I already see the change happening. Hopefully in 30 days I’ll have the courage to share a before & after.

    Yay! another nice little surprise… How cute is this?! just earned this pretty little bag for hitting my first month goal. 

    afternoon tea… all that’s missing is The Palm Court.

    If you’re going to dream anyway, might as well dream big.

    Ivanka Trump

    There’s no place like home…

    Three things in life that, once gone, never come back

    Time : Words : Opportunity

    Three things in life that may never be lost

    Peace : Hope : Honesty

    Three things in life that are most valuable

    Love : Self-Confidence : Family

    Three things in life that are never certain

    Dreams : Success : Fortune

    Three things that make a person

    Hardwork : Sincerity : Commitment

    Three things in life that can destroy a person

    Alcohol : Pride : Anger

    Three things in life that, once lost, are hard to regain

    Respect : Trust : Friendship

    Three things in life that never fail

    Love : Determination : Faith

    I’m comfortable with the knowledge that I’m not a teacher, but rather, a student. I don’t do any one thing perfectly. I do a lot of things though. Some well, some not-so-well.

    Blake Lively

    I’m ready! Let’s do this.

    Timing is everything… and the time is NOW!


    Have you ever wondered why things happen, when they happen? Is it merely coincidence? Is it destiny? Is it all in God’s plan? Not less than a week ago, I was seriously and deeply wondering why is it that I couldn’t find my identity. I’m confident in my abilities. I feel positive about life. I’m happy with all that God has blessed us with…. but after all these years, I feel like I have failed to find MYSELF.

    It’s true! There isn’t enough affirmation in the world that can convince you of your worth, until you learn how to value YOURSELF. All these years of therapy have taught me to instinctually know this, like the answer of an SAT question, yet somehow I still haven’t manage to believe it for myself. It’s not for a lack of self-esteem. Honest to God, it’s for the plain and simple lack of direction. More often than not, I have felt like a ship sailing through deep waters with no compass or map. Where is life going to take me?

    Well twenty-four hours later my guide came knocking. Actually it was more like the sound of my cell phone ringing, and for ONCE I literally rushed to answer the call. If you’ve known me long enough; then you know that I usually don’t pick up the phone. Life with a toddler leaves you with very little free time, and makes it nearly impossible to talk, use the bathroom, shower, eat, or basically do anything that is unrelated to said toddler. Anyhow, on the other line was my good friend Annette, who I’ve known for over fifteen-years. (WOW! Has it really been that long?) She’s been a champion, cheerleader, supporter, and amazing friend in my life. Happiness and enthusiasm radiate from her body like the glowing sun.

    After a few minutes of typical catching up, we got started on the topic of natural and non-toxic products. I was telling her about a recent experience I had while in California, where my face turned BRIGHT RED after using a different face wash and moisturizer. Since we were traveling and I hadn’t unpacked, I just used what was already in the bathroom and easy to grab. Never once have I experienced something like this in my life. I know my skin is slightly sensitive, but that was the first time ever that I broke out in hives all over my face. Believe me, I was freaking out. I mean I’m sure anyone would, but this was no joke.

    She explained to me that most beauty products contain a derivative of petroleum. I was like wait, what? Believe it or not, the majority of products found at the drug store all contain either mineral oil or liquid petrolatum which are by-products in the distillation of petroleum to produce gasoline. No way! So you’re telling me I’m putting toxins on my skin? Pretty much.

    Now I’m just starting my quest for an all natural lifestyle, but this was a little bit of a shocker. I’m still early in my learning experience and really couldn’t believe it. And just to explain it in depth a little more, incase you want me to get all scientific… petroleum is a liquid mixture that is present in certain rock layers (way down deep in the earth’s crust) and after it is extracted it’s refined to produce gasoline, heating oil, diesel fuel, etc…. Well why would I want that on my skin? That’s kind of scary. Do I really want cancer causing chemicals on my body or better yet around my family? No thank you!

    So to make a long story long… she introduced me to Arbonne. Everything is based on pure botanical principles that are safe for you as well as the environment. And I’m all about being green! It’s been a real eye-opener to discover how many toxins are in our everyday lives. I never really thought of any of this until I had my son. I just want to share my journey with you, so maybe you’ll have your “A-HA!” moment and you too can make a difference in your life.

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